There are days when nothing excites you. No project. No dream.
Other days, you want everything, yet can’t choose a single thing to focus on.
Either way, you’re not lost — not exactly. But you feel disconnected from something you can’t quite name.
So you say: “I don’t know what I want.”
In a world where confusion is highly normal and accepted, we fail to recognize the real problem underneath it.
Maybe the truth is: you don’t know who you are right now.
When Wanting Fades, So Does Self
Because knowing what you want isn’t just a practical question — it’s about your relationship with yourself.
Your desire is not separate from your essence.
You can only know what you want with total honesty and clarity when you’re in contact with yourself.
Not knowing what we want is normal, as we live in a society that is constantly throwing external demands and expectations at us. “Should do’s”, “must’s”, and “have to’s” take us off our own path. We get frustrated, lost, and yes, confused. We neglect ourselves — we forget who we are.
We aligned ourselves with the external world, in detriment of ourselves.
The way back? To get back to our Selves. To listen to our hearts and souls. To acknowledge who we are, and to accept what we want.
That’s why when you say, “I don’t want anything,” it can be more dangerous than it sounds.
It’s not peace. It’s disconnection. A slow withdrawal from vitality.
A symptom of how long you’ve been away from yourself.
Because even if what you want is for things to stay as they are, you still want something — you just happen to already have it.
Not All Desire Is Created Equal
We tend to judge desire. But desire isn’t always ego.
Some desires are your soul trying to speak.
Desires of the soul are rooted in your being.
They emerge from who you are at your core:
To create. To contribute. To feel truthfully. To express yourself.
To live in peace, purpose, clarity, depth.
They’re not about impressing others — they’re about aligning with your essence.
That’s why frustration and insatisfaction can be so valuable: they show us when we are out of integrity with our soul.
Desires of the ego, on the other hand, come from lack.
They’re shaped by comparison, emotional dependency, old wounds.
To prove. To compensate. To be seen in a certain way.
They feel urgent — but don’t truly satisfy.
They’re shaped by the gaze of others, not the compass within.
You can read more about this distinction here:
👉 Are Our Desires Bad? The Role of Desires in the Spiritual Path
The Danger of Losing Your Wanting
Some people don’t know what they want because they never learned to want from a truthful place.
Others stopped wanting after life numbed them out. Joy is a want, so is love and peace.
And slowly, this disconnection starts to feel normal.
You stop dreaming. You stop risking. You confuse stillness with peace.
Willingness is an attribute of your soul. The desire to be and create. When you loose that — you have lost yourself.
But not wanting anything doesn’t mean you’re okay.
It can mean you’ve abandoned yourself for too long.
Because our soul wants. It has purpose. Mission. To be itself.
It wants to experience life — not just tolerate it.
It wants to love. To create. To serve. To express.
When none of that feels real anymore, it’s not just a lack of desire —
It’s a symptom of internal shutdown.
Healing Is Coming Back to Life
And that’s what healing is. Not just resolving old wounds — but remembering who you are, and living in integrity with it.
Inside a Personal Consultation, we look at what’s been blocking that connection. Energetically, emotionally, mentally.
What old weight is still clouding your clarity?
What wounds taught you to want from ego instead of essence?
What pressure made you shut down your capacity to dream, feel, and act?
We don’t chase motivation. We remove what’s in the way.
So the real you can rise again.
For truth be told: you are not looking for what you want. You are looking for yourself.
You Were Meant to Be
To want, not in the frantic, endless grasping way. But in the rooted, clear, soul-aligned way.
Wanting doesn’t make you needy.
It means you’re alive.
It means you’re listening.
It means you have purpose.
It means your essence is alive — and ready to create a life that actually reflects you.
So if you’ve been saying “I don’t know what I want,” maybe it’s time to pause.
Not to force a decision — but to reconnect with the part of you that does know.
The part that’s just been buried under fear, fatigue, and forgetting.
The part of you that is unapologetically you.
You don’t need to figure it all out. You just need to start coming back to yourself — to live in integrity with yourself.
About me
I’m Aline Ra M — I help you clear emotional, mental, and energetic overload so you can reconnect with your clarity, direction, and inner strength to take aligned action, without wasting years circling the same terrain. Learn more at alinera
